4 Things You Can Do If You’re Experiencing Burning Sex After C Section

If you are starting to have sex again after having a cesarean section (C-section) delivery, you might experience burning sex after C section. So how do you cope when sex is painful and your postpartum body isn’t ready?

How long to wait for sex after C section?

It’s best to get your doctor’s go-ahead before jumping into sex, but typically most women get the OK to go ahead with regular sexual activities from their doctors at their 6-week postnatal checkup. However, every woman’s recovery is different, and the timing will depend on whether your C-section was extensive or unplanned.

You would also want to continue to take some precautions during sex, as there may be some swelling and pain around the incision site. The incision site is also prone to tearing as it heals, so do avoid all strenuous sexual activities and positions.

Many women also bleed when they have sex for the first time after birth – and that is completely normal!

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So why is there burning sex after C section?

As your body heals after having a C section, your vagina will usually feels wider, swollen, or bruised postpartum. Your cervix is also still healing and returning to its regular size.

If you are experiencing burning sex after C section, know that you are not alone. One study showed that 83% of first-time mothers experiencing sexual problems in the first 3 months following delivery.

Another reason for the pain during sex is due to vaginal dryness. Your hormone changes after birth, and vaginal dryness is a common problem after birth.

Low estrogen is a result of fluctuating hormone levels, and may be exacerbated by breastfeeding. Thankfully, using lots of lube will help with vaginal dryness.

Lastly, you might be experiencing weak and/or tight pelvic floor muscles (pelvic floor dysfunction). During pregnancy, there was extra pressure on your pelvic floor which often makes your muscles weaker.

You might have experienced a loss of bladder control and leaking pee during your pregnancy. Weak muscles tend to overcompensate and become tight, so you would want to explore pelvic floor exercises to loosen and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.

4 things you can do if you’re experiencing burning sex after C section

Besides talking to your doctor or OB/GYN about the pain, you can also try the following 4 things to reduce the pain during sex.

1. More lube and foreplay

Lots of lube and foreplay is your friend here, so don’t jump straight into penetration. Vaginal dryness is a common reason why you might be experiencing burning pain, so we recommend using a water-based or silicone-based lube.

We recommend checking out the Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant – a water-based lube made with 95% organic aloe and closely mimics the body’s own natural lubrication.

However, if over-the-counter lube doesn’t do the trick, you might want to try using a prescription topical estrogen cream for added moisture.

When it comes to foreplay, communicate with your partner that you would likely need more foreplay than before. We typically advise 10-15 minutes of foreplay and getting you wet and ready for sex, but this will depend on your own individual needs.

2. Skip the penetration and have oral sex or mutual masturbation

Ladies, you’re likely already orgasming more from oral sex and masturbation than penetration, so use this time of healing from your C section to ask for more oral sex or mutual masturbation.

If you are looking to spice things up with mutual masturbation, your partner can use a vibrator to stimulate your clit. The AMO Bullet Vibrator by Hot Octopuss is perfectly shaped for clitoris stimulation, and we love that it offers both pinpoint stimulation or broad stimulation.

Related: How to use sex toys after birth to ease your way back into sex

3. Do Kegel exercises to gain control over your pelvic-floor muscles

After pregnancy, healing and strengthening the pelvic floor is often the key to returning back to painless sex. Seek out a physiotherapist who specializes in pelvic health, and you’re likely to see a huge improvement within two to three months.

You can also try doing Kegel exercises at home with this Kegel Floor Exerciser. Use it for just fifteen minutes a day, and you’ll start getting back the control of your pelvic muscles and confidence after a few weeks.

4. Explore other sex positions or try anal sex

Your favorite sex positions might be the reason behind burning sex after C section. Use this as an opportunity to try new positions that are more comfortable for your new body and does not put pressure on your C-section scar. You can also explore new things such as anal sex.

If you are new to anal play, we love using the Tantus Perfect Plug beginner anal plug to begin with anal exploration.

Experiencing painful burning sex after C section is nothing to be ashamed of, and it is very common for women after giving birth.

Take the pressure of having sex like you used to before giving birth, and know that it takes time to physically and mentally adjust to all of the changes your body is experiencing after giving birth. Let your partner know how you are feeling to, and it is also OK to wait until you are sure you are ready for sex.

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