Struggling with a lower sex drive during menopause and your sex life isn’t what it used to be? Here are 4 tips for increased libido after menopause.
Balance your hormones
While testosterone drives men’s libidos, most women are estrogen dependent. During your reproductive years, when you were having a monthly period, your estrogen was highest during the point where you ovulate and get ready for conception.
Estrogen helps fuel our sexual desires as well as our sense of smell, which is why our partner’s smell is attractive to us. If your partner doesn’t smell enticing to you anymore and there has been no change to the hygiene, it could be your lower estrogen levels. Estrogen also helps women feel more sensual and increases the sensitivity of their erogenous zones after menopause.
During menopause, we experience a continual decrease of estrogen, so we don’t get the highs of feeling sexy like we did when we were in our reproductive years.
Progesterone is often prescribed by doctors to regulate estrogen receptors for increased libido after menopause. If you are looking for some natural ways to balance your hormones, we recommend taking black cohosh to increase estrogen, maca to increase testosterone, and chasteberry to increase progesterone.
Keep your vagina healthy and well lubricated for less painful sex
Have you been experiencing painful sex since menopause? That might be due to atrophic vaginitis, which is vagina dryness often caused by low estrogen. Atrophic vaginitis causes your vagina to become thin and dry which makes sex uncomfortable and painful if you’re not lubricated enough.
When the estrogen goes away during menopause, the natural lubrication goes away. Just like how you would moisturize your face daily, your vagina needs moisturization as well. Thankfully, you can find vaginal moisturizers at many pharmacies and drugstores.
If you feel that it’s not just vagina pain, but rather the pain is actually coming from the pelvic and lasts long afterwards, then you would want to get this checked out by a doctor because it could be due to a prolapse. A prolapse is where the internal organs such as the bladder, the bowel, or the uterus has shifted, and any pressure put on them during sex can cause an awful lot of discomfort.
Take time to rediscover orgasms
You probably feel like everything slowed down after menopause, whether that’s your energy, your libido, your motivation, your metabolism, and even how long it takes for you to reach orgasm.
That’s because without reproductive levels of hormones, there is lesser blood flow to the pelvis and the vagina. The build-up of blood in the pelvic organs is the release into orgasm, which means when there is no buildup, there is no climax.
So while having an orgasm is still possible with menopause, it might just take longer and you need to be patient with yourself. It is still possible to have great sex after menopause, but it might take time to rediscover what you need in order to orgasm.
For example, you might need more stimulus and more foreplay, or you might use more powerful vibrators and try different sex toys or sexual positions to provide clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Have a conversation with your partner about how menopause is changing your needs, and even the fact that you might need to use a vaginal moisturizer or a lubricant during sex.
Build up your confidence
During menopause, we very often see ourselves differently to the woman we used to be. Maybe you have put on weight and don’t feel so good about yourself. Losing our confidence can transfer itself into the bedroom if we don’t want to be seen naked.
We might start to feel ashamed of the way our body looks and we might feel that our partner wouldn’t find us sexy anymore, and that can lower the desire of having sex. We can also experience more irritability and anxiety during menopause, and in that emotional state, we are likely not thinking about wanting sex at all.
Menopause is the perfect time to rediscover pleasure
Menopause does not have to mean low libido, and it is the perfect time to rediscover sex. Think of sex during menopause like a brand new honeymoon, where you and your partner get to have a fun time exploring new ways to pleasure each other.
Use these 4 tips for increased libido after menopause, and remember to be patient and get your vagina healthy and happy with topical estrogen.