Strap-On Slipping Out While Pegging? Here’s Our Advice On Pegging For Plus Size Women

Struggling with the strap-on slipping out while pegging? Not sure which harness would fit? Here’s our advice on pegging for plus size women, plus the best strap ons and harnesses for larger women!

Pegging is a great way to spice up your sex life, and we’ve even written a comprehensive guide on how to peg someone for the first time. Yet when you are a plus size woman, there are certain considerations that you’ll need to make around the strap on and the harness you use for pegging.

Some people might dismiss certain sex positions or kinks as being unattainable for plus size people, but the fact is most sex positions and kinks work just as well for larger bodies – with a few modifications in place and experimenting to work with your body’s limitations.

Thankfully, there is a variety of sex toy options available for plus size women, including harnesses that will fit you and dildos that won’t slip out easily.

Top 5 advice on pegging for plus size women

1. You’ll need to get used to the rhythm and technique involved with thrusting

The thrusting movement for penetration is often more complicated and tiring than most women expect, especially when we do not have the added benefit of sensation of your “tool” and we won’t know how deep we are in.

Men can feel the sensation of their penis moving in and out, which is why many women struggle initially with pegging.

Rocking your hips back and forth can also feel tiring if you do not have experience being the giver, but with more practice you will soon feel comfortable with thrusting.

2. Pick a dildo with a longer insertable length

When choosing a dildo for your pegging strap on, pick a dildo that is longer so that your belly does not stop the dildo from entering fully. By using a dildo with a longer insertable length, you will be able to prevent the dildo from slipping out while you are thrusting.

We recommend choosing a pegging dildo that is a couple of inches longer than what your partner can take, as that little extra length can help to achieve proper penetration.

Here are some of our favorite pegging dildos for plus size women:

  • The Hook dildo by one of our favorite brands, Tantus, is longer than your average dildo at 9.25″ long. The extra length allows you to strap this on, reach and stay in, and it has as a fantastic angle for p-spot play.
  • If you are looking for a dildo a little shorter but still great for pegging as a plus size woman, then we love the Silk Large dildo by Tantus. At 7″, this smooth silicone dildo is simply perfect for pleasurable pegging with its flared bare securely anchored in your strap-on harness.

Related: 5 Best Strap Ons For Pegging As A Couple – Reviewed

3. Skip doggy style and try a different position

If your belly is keeping the strap on dildo from going in all the way, especially while you are doing doggy style, then consider trying different positions that would give you more access.

Having your partner on top or going missionary style would allow your partner to be in a better position to receive fully. Another good position would be for the receiving partner to have their thighs folded up to their chest.

If you get tired at any point, it is okay to sit or lay on your back and have them ride you for your visual enjoyment. Not only is it a less exhausting position, it is also very efficient for hitting the right spot.

4. Take it slow and don’t jump into pound town

In the excitement of it all, you might be tempted to go real fast real soon, especially since you can’t feel the sensation of each thrust.

Instead of heading straight to pound town, take it slower and easier. Not only is it maybe more enjoyable for the receiver, it is also easier for you to maintain the strap on dildo inside.

5. Skip the harness and hold the dildo instead

If you have trouble finding the right size harness or keeping the dildo from slipping out, then consider skipping the harness and holding the dildo instead. Hold onto the base of the dildo and peg away. It might even feel better for your partner as you won’t tire out as much and you won’t need to struggle with getting used to the thrusting movement.

Choosing the right harness for plus size women

Finding a harness that fits you might be frustrating. Here are some of our favorite harnesses for plus size women:

Harness Joque by Fun Factory (up to 65″ hips)
Harness Joque by Fun Factory

This strap on harness by Fun Factory comes in two sizes, and the larger size fits up to 65″ hips. This is the one we love the most, and it is also highly recommended by many plus size women as their favorite harness.

You can adjust it to your size once and never have to buckle and adjust every strap on your harness each time you wear it. You just pull it on and off like underwear!

We also love the super-sturdy two-strap design which keeps the harness close to your body while you’re pegging. When you’re pegging, you really want the harness to wrap tightly around your hips. The straps are also wide and soft, so they feel comfortable and not skin pinching at all.

There are pockets above and below the o-ring where you can insert bullet vibes for simultaneous stimulation, and the stretchy o-ring fits dildos 1.25–2.25 inches in diameter.

Divine Diva Plus Size Harness (up to 82″ hips thighs)
Divine Diva Plus Size Harness

Made specially with plus size women in mind, the Divine Diva Plus Size Harness has four-way adjustable straps that fit 28″ to 82″ hips and 44″ thighs. We especially love that it comes with padded lower-back support, and the fit is truly fitting for plus size women. It fits nicely on curvy bodies without any discomfort.

This harness comes with 3 interchangeable O-rings, which will allow you to use dildos with different girths, as long as they come with a flared base.

Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Kit (up to 60″ hips)
Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Kit

The harness that comes with this pegging strap on kit by Tantus fits up to 60” hips. This kit also comes with two smooth 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone 5.5″ and 7″ dildos, and a vibrator that fits snugly into a pocket on the harness for extra stimulation to both the wearer and the receiver.

Sportsheets Em.Ex. Active Harness Brief (up to 50″ hips)
Sportsheets Em Ex Active Harness Brief

If you prefer a harness brief style, then check out the Em.Ex harness brief by Sportsheets. This harness brief fits up to 50″ hips, and you can wear it like your favorite pair of undies.

The soft fabric provides stretch while keeping the dildo firmly secure, and there are two bullet pockets where you can insert bullet vibes for extra stimulation.

Other strap on harness ideas for plus size women

If you’re having trouble finding a harness that fits you, you can try placing the dildo between the fly of your pants (leave your pants buttoned but unzipped, and have the dildo placed between the open zippers).

If ropes are your thing, you can also consider making a harness out of rope (watch this YouTube tutorial on how to make a rope harness for your strap on dildo). Depending on your experience, a rope harness can actually be really secure, as long as you are good at rope and keep things tight.

Pegging for plus size women is not only doable, it can also be fun and pleasurable for both the giver and the receiver when you use the right harness and strap on dildo!

Related: 7 Pleasurable & Easy Sexual Positions For Heavy Woman And Big Girls!

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