Myth Or Fact: Can Masturbating Too Often Desensitize The Clit?

Does masturbating too often or using the vibrator numb and desensitize the clit over time? Will you get over dependent on masturbating, especially with your vibrator?

Solo masturbation with clitoral stimulation can feel ah-ma-zing! Not to hype up clitoral stimulation, but there is a reason why more than 85% of women orgasm mostly through clitoral stimulation and not from PIV (penis in vagina).

Yet when you are in a relationship or having regular sex with a partner, you might not experience the same orgasm you get from solo clitoral masturbation. Does that mean that your clit has been desensitized over time?

Myth Or Fact: Can Masturbating Too Often Desensitize The Clit?

So can masturbating too often desensitize the clit?

Thankfully, it is a myth that masturbating or using a vibrator too often can desensitize the clit! Our genitals are built to handle as much or as little sex and stimulation as we want.

Masturbation, with or without using a vibrator, actually helps improve orgasms and increase clitoral sensations. Women who masturbate frequently get to explore their bodies and find out what works for them and what doesn’t, which in turn allows women who masturbate to have an overall better sex life.

If you aren’t able to orgasm with partnered sex or without clitoral stimulation, it is not because your clit has been desensitized from masturbation or from using a vibrator.

Rather, what often messes with our sex life is the general day to day stresses of life, as well as illnesses such as chronic pains and previous vaginal delivery, c-section delivery, or pelvic surgeries. So masturbation or using a vibrator is not to blame if you are not getting the orgasms you are used to getting when you masturbate.

So how can you work on having better orgasms outside of your solo masturbation time? You can start with working on the other areas of your life, such as working on your self-confidence, introducing new things and toys into the bedroom, and having the willingness to explore new experiences around sex.

So what is that numbing feeling I feel after using a vibrator on my clit?

If you’ve experienced vibrator-induced clit numbness or the feared “dead vagina syndrome”, then worry not: science tells us that vibrators do not ruin our clits for partnered sex, and you cannot desensitize your vagina or clitoris from masturbating too often or from using a vibrator.

In fact, the famous Hitachi wand is doctor-approved!

If you feel any numbness of your vagina or clit, it is a temporary numbness after using a vibrator that goes away shortly, typically after a couple of minutes. This temporary numbness might also be experienced even after a prolonged oral stimulation or a vaginal intercourse.

It’s like holding on to a massage gun – your body feels that vibration sensation for a while after experiencing an intense stimulation, and it will go away after your body gets to rest and recover.

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What if my clit still feels numb during partnered sex?

If you use a vibrator frequently to masturbate and you have noticed a change in your clitoral sensitivity, it might not be due to your vibrator.

Your worrying is causing the desensitizing

Rather, one reason might be due to worrying about the vibrator desensitizing your clit, which then ironically interferes with your ability to enjoy partnered sex without any vibrators. This is especially true for women as much of our sexual pleasure and orgasms is a mental stimulation, and any stress or worry can affect our ability to be in the moment and have an orgasm.

If you believe that stress is the actual reason behind your problem getting an orgasm or your clit feeling numb during partnered sex, then we recommend practicing any form of self-care routine to relieve stress, such as having a regular meditation or breathwork practice. Having regular meditation or breathwork practice can help train your brain to calm down and be present during partnered sex.

You might also want to reach out to your doctor if you believe that a medication or depression is the real cause behind your desensitized clit or trouble getting an orgasm during partnered sex. The doctor will also be able to advise if there are other health conditions that might be squashing your clitoral sensitivity.

It is okay to introduce your vibrator during partnered sex

Since most women aren’t able to climax from just penetrative sex alone and would need direct clitoral stimulation, using a vibrator during partnered sex can greatly enhance your sexy time together.

There is no, zero, zilch, nada shame in using a vibrator during partnered sex, and you should never let anyone make you feel bad for wanting to use one during sex.

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