How To Use A Butt Plug For The First Time!

Thinking of enhancing your pleasure and orgasms with anal sex? Curious how to use a butt plug for the first time – but feeling a little intimidated? Here’s our full guide on everything you need to know about using butt plugs – from choosing the right butt plug, to using it safely and pleasurably.

You might think only men can get amazing orgasms from stimulating the prostate gland through anal sex, but women can also get sizzling anal-based orgasms too. That’s because our anus is rich with nerve endings that feels amazing when it is being titillated and stimulated.

Many people’s anal adventures start from being playfully fingered in the anus, but a butt plug can help intensify an orgasm while enjoying hands-free anal stimulation. The butt plug is perhaps one of the most pleasurable products for any body and anybody – from anal sex enthusiast to curious about butt play.

So what is a butt plug?

Think of a butt plug as a toy that goes into your anus and stays there while you play. Unlike using other sex toys like a dildo, there’s no thrusting or in-and-out motion happening when you use a butt plug. The butt plug stays in place in your anal while providing stimulation throughout sex.

The butt plug is shaped specifically as well, with a smaller tapered end for easy entry (great if you are new to anal sex!), moving down to a larger bulb for the sphincter to rest against, and then thins out to a flared base for easy removal.

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Will my butt plug… get stuck up my ass?

That’s where the flared base comes in handy. In fact, do not use any sex toy or butt plug that does not have a wide flared base.

For example, jewel butt plugs can (and have) easily slip all the way inside and are not really safe for anal play. Yes, they are pretty to look at, but the base is way too small to prevent slipping all the way in. Plus, lubed up stainless steel combined with the rather small “bullet” shape makes it easy and slippery for accidents to happen.

Same thing with anal beads. Anal beads are meant to be pushed in and pulled out, as opposed to the butt plug, which just stays put.

When you’re ready to remove the butt plug, if the butt plug feels slightly tight when you want to pull it out from your anus, simply squeeze a little lube in and around your butt hole, and the butt plug will come out smoothly.

How to use a butt plug for the first time?

1. Lube up – generously

Before we get down and dirty on how to use a butt plug, memorize these 7 words by heart:

“Never use a butt plug without lube.”

Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. You will need to use a lot of lube for comfort and safety when you’re inserting a butt plug. Regular lube top-ups are highly recommended if the anal play gets drawn out.

Just make sure that the lube you are using is water-based if you’re using a silicone butt plug. Avoid silicone lube because it reacts badly with silicone toys. We also recommend using lube designed specifically for anal play, as it tends to be thicker and longer-lasting, so you don’t have to apply it as often as you would with normal lube.

We like the Pjur Backdoor Anal Glide water-based lube as it is smooth, long-lasting and compatible with all condoms and sex toys.

If you are using a glass or stainless steel butt plug, then using a silicone lubricant is a great option because it’s thicker and typically lasts longer before needing to reapply.

Having lots of foreplay and arousal is also necessary for how to use a butt plug pleasurably. You’ll need to prep the body for anal penetration, and lube alone isn’t enough.

2. Go slow and take it easy

Anal play requires you to be relaxed, so start slow and don’t go in guns blazing. If you’re trying a butt plug with a partner for the first time, make sure to share your expectations and any concerns with them first. You might even need to walk them through how to use a butt plug correctly if they are new to it. If you’re having anal play alone, take your time.

Start with a smaller and slimmer butt plug first. Lube up the butt plug and the anus, inhale, insert it slowly, and let it sit inside comfortably. It’s down to your personal preference when it comes to the best position for inserting a butt plug. Lifted missionary or doggy style works best with a partner, and if you are doing it solo, you can try bending over and then going between your legs (just like you would with a tampon).

Note how you feel, and once you become comfortable and aroused, you can move on to a larger butt plug.

3. Don’t forget good hygiene practices

Knowing how to use a butt plug comfortably and pleasurably is just step one. Make sure to take extra care with cleanliness when it comes to any sexual activity related to the anus. Bacteria that live in your colon can spread to your genitalia or mouth and cause an infection if you don’t practice good hygiene before, during, and after anal play.

It also goes without saying (but we shall say it as a PSA): do NOT put a butt plug into a vagina after it has been in a butt. Doing that will lead to a UTI or yeast infection.

You would want to wash your butt plug with soap or a sex toy cleaner before and after each use with warm water. We recommend using the JO USDA Organic Toy Cleaning Spray for a gentle, soap free cleaner to clean your butt plug. It is formulated and certified to use more than 95% pure organic ingredients.

Best butt plugs for beginners

Start small… like unambitiously small. If you are using a butt plug for the first time, and especially if you’ve never had so much as a finger back there, you don’t want to go gung ho on your first butt attempt. Your thumb size is about the size you’re going to want for your first beginner butt plug.

Make sure that the butt plug is not made out of porous material. Since you’re dealing with the anus, the last thing you need is having bacteria on your toys. Choose a butt plug made from hard plastic, silicone, glass, or metal.

1. Tantus Little Flirt

The Tantus Little Flirt butt plug is perfect one of the best butt plugs for beginners because it is barely a pinky width at the tip and only a finger width at the center. Small, small, small. It is made from Ultra-Premium Silicone, and just the perfect size for anal introductions.

2. Luxe Beginner Plug Kit

The Luxe Beginner Plug Kit is the perfect starter set for safe and comfortable booty play, with three sizes to allow you to start small and work your way up comfortably. Made of satin smooth, platinum cured silicone, the Luxe Beginner Plug Kit is body safe and features a tapered tip for easy insertion.

3. Lovense HUSH Vibrating Butt Plug

The Lovense HUSH Vibrating Butt Plug is the world’s first teledildonic butt plug, which allows you to use it with a partner for long-distance play. Having the vibration option allows for different anal stimulation.

How long can I wear a butt plug?

You can wear your butt plug anywhere from minutes to hours, bathroom breaks aside. If you are new to anal play and just learning how to use a butt plug for the first time, we recommend wearing it for no longer than two to three hours or for as long as it feels comfortable.

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