Is your pregnancy making you extra frisky and sexually aroused? Or is sex the last thing on your mind now? Either way, here’s what you need to know about when to stop sex during pregnancy.
Is sex safe during pregnancy?
Ladies, rejoice! Sex during pregnancy is not only safe, it is also highly encouraged! Generally, if you are cleared by your healthcare provider, your pregnancy is uncomplicated and you feel up to it, you can have sex until your water breaks.
You would want to be mindful of potential complications. If you have a history of miscarriage or are at a higher risk for one, your doctor might recommend avoiding sex for the first few months of your pregnancy.
If you are not in a mutually monogamous relationship and you will be having sex with new or different partners, we recommend using condoms or dental dams as sexually transmitted infections remain a significant health risk during pregnancy. Some STIs including chlamydia, gonorrhea and HIV can be dangerous for babies, even if the amniotic sac protects your baby from infectious organisms.
The benefits of sex during pregnancy
If pleasure and orgasms alone aren’t good enough reasons, then know that sex during pregnancy can also help you get better sleep, lower your blood pressure, and increase the feeling of happiness. It can also help with your postpartum recovery because pregnancy sex can help tone your pelvic floor. Your orgasms are literally preparing your body for both childbirth and recovery!
Sex during pregnancy can also feel more fun as well, as the baby-making pressure is off. If your partner is used to pulling out before cumming or using a condom, having sex while being pregnant takes away any stress of unwanted pregnancy as well.
When to stop sex during pregnancy?
If you are worried that penetrative sex with a penis or a dildo might poke the baby in the head, fear not! Your baby is protected by your abdomen and the uterus’ muscular walls, and is cushioned by the amniotic sac’s fluid.
There are also fears that having an orgasm might lead to early labor contractions. It’s good to know that the fear is unfounded, however as a general safety precaution, your doctor might advise stopping sex in the final weeks of pregnancy. Although only a theory, some doctors believe that hormones in semen called prostaglandins can stimulate contractions.
The most important thing to do is to talk with your doctor on when to stop sex during pregnancy, as each pregnancy is different. If you are at risk for miscarriage or have a history of past miscarriages, or perhaps you are at risk for preterm labor, then your doctor’s advice would differ from the general advise on when to stop sex during pregnancy for uncomplicated pregnancies.
If your doctor says no sex during pregnancy, ask if that means no intercourse or no orgasms at all. As long as you are not on pelvic rest because you have preterm labor or placenta previa, you can still masturbate (solo or partnered) or have oral sex during your pregnancy.
The SILA clit sucking vibrator by LELO is created for masturbation if penetrative sex is not allowed by your doctor. Using sonic waves, the toy is able to allow you to reach your climax slowly and experience a new way of foreplay through its highly stimulating sensation to the clit.
Does pregnant sex feel different?
During pregnancy, your blood volume increases by 40 percent, and you might find your breasts swollen and your sensitivity around your erogenous zones heightened – resulting in more intense sex and maybe even multiple orgasms.
Your sex drive will likely fluctuate throughout your pregnancy. During your first trimester, you might feel tired and nauseated so sex is not on your mind. You might start feeling more frisky and aroused in the second trimester because of the high levels of hormones, sending your libido off the charts. In the third trimester, your libido might taper off as your due date approaches.
Your partner might feel different about sex as well, as any mental and emotional change can cause a change in sex drive. Your partner might also have the same fears about hurting you or the baby while having sex.
There might also be some discomfort with the thought of your baby being an audience while you are having sex. Good news here: Your baby is not able to see what you are up to, and has absolutely no idea what’s going on outside of the womb.
If your baby starts kicking after you orgasm, it is not a reaction to your pleasure (or a judgement!). Rather, it is just a normal fetal response to uterine activity, which can actually be rather comforting for the baby due to the undulating motions from sex.